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Teaching Consent to Small Children

mysalivaismygifttotheworld:

afrafemme:

A friend and I were out with our kids when another family’s two-year-old came up. She began hugging my friend’s 18-month-old, following her around and smiling at her. My friend’s little girl looked like she wasn’t so sure she liked this, and at that moment the other little girl’s mom came up and got down on her little girl’s level to talk to her.

“Honey, can you listen to me for a moment? I’m glad you’ve found a new friend, but you need to make sure to look at her face to see if she likes it when you hug her. And if she doesn’t like it, you need to give her space. Okay?”

Two years old, and already her mother was teaching her about consent.

My daughter Sally likes to color on herself with markers. I tell her it’s her body, so it’s her choice. Sometimes she writes her name, sometimes she draws flowers or patterns. The other day I heard her talking to her brother, a marker in her hand.

“Bobby, do you mind if I color on your leg?”

Bobby smiled and moved himself closer to his sister. She began drawing a pattern on his leg with a marker while he watched, fascinated. Later, she began coloring on the sole of his foot. After each stoke, he pulled his foot back, laughing. I looked over to see what was causing the commotion, and Sally turned to me.

“He doesn’t mind if I do this,” she explained, “he is only moving his foot because it tickles. He thinks its funny.” And she was right. Already Bobby had extended his foot to her again, smiling as he did so.

What I find really fascinating about these two anecdotes is that they both deal with the consent of children not yet old enough to communicate verbally. In both stories, the older child must read the consent of the younger child through nonverbal cues. And even then, consent is not this ambiguous thing that is difficult to understand.

Teaching consent is ongoing, but it starts when children are very young. It involves both teaching children to pay attention to and respect others’ consent (or lack thereof) and teaching children that they should expect their own bodies and their own space to be respected—even by their parents and other relatives.

And if children of two or four can be expected to read the nonverbal cues and expressions of children not yet old enough to talk in order to assess whether there is consent, what excuse do full grown adults have?

I try to do this every day I go to nursery and gosh it makes me so happy to see it done elsewhere.

danamilburn:

kiss-da-girl:

disney-princess-unite:

pitchpipestarkid:

howtotrainyourbabyboo:

animationfanatic:

thesmokinsmolder:

7:15 a.m.by Eumenidi

is this…. all the disney princesses in their dressing room getting ready in the morning to film their movies?? I want an au

this is sooooo cute!!!

lol look what belle’s reading

*blushes*  I was just curious! ~Belle

I love all the little details in this

Omg bell lol

danamilburn:

kiss-da-girl:

disney-princess-unite:

pitchpipestarkid:

howtotrainyourbabyboo:

animationfanatic:

thesmokinsmolder:

7:15 a.m.by Eumenidi

is this…. all the disney princesses in their dressing room getting ready in the morning to film their movies?? I want an au

this is sooooo cute!!!

lol look what belle’s reading

*blushes*  I was just curious! ~Belle

I love all the little details in this

Omg bell lol

christie19:

So in class the other day we were learning about the sleeping habits of newborn babies when one of the guys says “I would nickname my baby Gotham, so in the middle of the night when the baby cries my partner can whisper “Gotham needs you” and I would feel excellent about having to get out of bed”.

teded:

In the past decade, the US honeybee population has been decreasing at an alarming and unprecedented rate. But why?
Emma Bryce offers some explanations in the TED-Ed Lesson The case of the vanishing honeybees.
One solution?  Plant flowers! In Marla Spivak’s TED Talk Why bees are disappearing, she reminds us that when bees have access to good nutrition, we have access to good nutrition through their pollination services.  
So get out there, Tumblr - and plant some bee-friendly flowers!
Animation by Lillian Chan

teded:

In the past decade, the US honeybee population has been decreasing at an alarming and unprecedented rate. But why?

Emma Bryce offers some explanations in the TED-Ed Lesson The case of the vanishing honeybees.

One solution?  Plant flowers! In Marla Spivak’s TED Talk Why bees are disappearing, she reminds us that when bees have access to good nutrition, we have access to good nutrition through their pollination services.  

So get out there, Tumblr - and plant some bee-friendly flowers!

Animation by Lillian Chan

ahobbitscourage:

do you ever check how much time there’s left of an episode just to make sure they won’t stop there

(Source: ahobbitscourage)

hihiskinnythighs:

starkinglyhandsome:

marchcorvus:

suburbanite-gangst3r:

i emotionally connect with this cat

dis mah pizza

dar r mani liek it

but dis 1 iz mine

ah, an ancient tongue

that is pure lolspeak, not heard in its raw form in many a year

we’ve come full circle gentlemen

hahahahahah

(Source: onlylolgifs)

strangeasanjles:

danielsexbert:

just so we’re clear:

  • getting called out for doing something shitty is not the same as “getting hate”
  • if someone is telling you that you did something shitty, they are not criticizing you as a person
  • messing up does not make you an irredeemably awful human being
  • but how you respond to criticism can be a pretty good indicator of your awfulness

Internalize the bold.

threepipe:

ok but when people say “that character isn’t canonically gay” when they’re talking about a character whose sexuality is never actually mentioned in the books/show/whatever. no. no actually u chose to infer that the character is canonically straight because u think straight is the automatic sexuality of all beings unless the word “gay” is in bolded size 60 font and that’s shitty